A Stand Against Gender Ideology | Sharing the Unchanging Truth for a Changing World

"Culture changes. Opinions sway. But, the Word of God, it will reign forever."

As I look at my seven-month-old son, I am filled with both wonder and responsibility. He doesn’t yet grasp the complexities of the world around him. He doesn’t know what politics are, the shifting definitions of gender, or the debates over what it means to be a man or a woman. Right now, his world is simple: smiling at familiar faces, reaching for toys, and lighting up when I walk into the room. But, I know that one day, he’ll start asking big questions and I will have the responsibility to guide him through a world that often offers confusion instead of clarity.

Today, in much of the Western world, the dominant narrative teaches that identity is fluid that we can redefine ourselves however, we choose, regardless of biological reality. Children, even young ones, are being told that they can wake up one day and decide to change their gender. Biology, once considered a fixed truth, is now treated as a mere suggestion. In this evolving culture, feelings are considered the ultimate compass for defining identity.

These ideas are not confined to academic circles or obscure debates; they are woven into school curriculums, entertainment, social media, and even legislation. They are marketed as progressive and loving, yet beneath their shiny surface lies a rejection of God’s perfect and intentional design for humanity.

As an African parent, I view these trends with growing concern. Though geographically distant, the world is more interconnected than ever. What begins in one country often spreads to others through pop culture, media, and international policy. I worry that the erosion of traditional values in the West will soon ripple across borders, threatening the cultural and spiritual foundation that has long guided families in Africa. But, here’s where I find peace: my son will not be caught unaware. When these ideologies inevitably reach us, he will be equipped not by the shifting sands of culture, but by the unchanging truth of God’s Word.

I will not be silent. As your parent, I reject the notion that love means endorsing confusion. True love the kind that comes from God protects, corrects, and guides. It speaks the truth, even when it’s unpopular. And so, I write this letter to you, my son, not for today, but for the day when the world grows loud and unclear.

To My Precious Son,

You are a gift, created on purpose by a loving God who does not make mistakes. You were born a boy not by accident, not by social construct, but by divine intention. And that is a good thing. It is a beautiful thing.

There may come a time when others will tell you that you can be anything you feel even something other than what God made you to be. But, I want you to remember: while your feelings are real, they do not define you. God’s Word does.

You are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). God knit you together in my womb, and He has a purpose for your life. Do not let the noise of the world drown out the truth that has been spoken over you since before you were born.

Stay rooted, my son. As the Apostle Paul reminds us in Ephesians 3:17, we are to be “rooted and established in love,” grounded in the Word of God. That foundation will keep you steady when everything around you seems to shift. Culture changes. Opinions sway. But, the Word of God, it will reign forever.

Jesus Himself said, “Heaven and earth will pass away, but My Words will never pass away” (Matthew 24:35). Everything around you may fall into chaos, but God’s Word will remain your anchor.

Some may say this truth is outdated, that it’s unloving or judgmental. But truth is not subject to trends. Truth is timeless. Boys are boys. Girls are girls. This is not hate; this is holy design. To reject this truth is to invite confusion, instability, and, in many cases, deep regret. We are already hearing from young people who were encouraged to embrace confusion and pursue irreversible changes—many now speaking out in pain, feeling betrayed. Their stories are sobering reminders of why clarity and guidance are so essential.

So, what do we do as parents in such a time as this?

We stand firm. We raise our children on the truth of God’s Word. We do not let their identities be shaped by the winds of culture. We anchor them in the truth of who God says they are. We protect them not just physically, but spiritually, emotionally, and ideologically. We speak boldly, pray fervently, and parent with intention.

And most importantly, we fix our eyes on Jesus.

In the midst of this storm, He remains our peace. He is not overwhelmed. He is not shaken. He still holds the world and you, my son in His hands. Despite the chaos, God has a plan. A good plan. “‘ For I know the plans I have for you,’ declares the Lord, ‘plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future.’” (Jeremiah 29:11).

So, when the world becomes confusing, I pray that you’ll return to this letter. I pray you’ll remember that you were raised in truth, covered in prayer, and deeply loved. I pray that you’ll never feel ashamed of who God made you to be, and that you’ll always know who you are—not by what you feel, but by who He says you are.

And when the enemy roars, seeking whom he may devour, remember this: You belong to the Good Shepherd, and He never loses His sheep.

With All My Love,
  Your parent, your guide, your fiercest protector until the very end.

Timothy Kiara

Guest Contributor